This allows deleting and updating an ingress even if the ingress server that was handling it died. It does however mean that if the ingress responds again later, its state will be inconsistent. To somewhat make this less likely, also keep trying contacting the ingress for 1 min in the background.
Also fixing a race where an active deleted Ingress would get recreated on delete because of the update triggered by the ingress session shutdown
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