core, ui: prohibit changing profile for prepared entity when first attempt to connect failed (#6037)

* core: prohibit changing profile for prepared entity when first attempt to connect failed

* reuse incognito

* schema

* ios

* postgres schema

* ios

* reenable tests

* kotlin

* update alert

* rename predicate, combine queries

* send the correct incognito mode, fail on attempt to change mode for prepared connection

* query plans

* ui: show group connecting status

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Co-authored-by: Evgeny Poberezkin <evgeny@poberezkin.com>

src/Simplex/Chat/Store/ContactRequest.hs

@@ -202,7 +202,7 @@ createOrUpdateContactRequest
               ct <- getContact db vr user contactId
               pure $ RSCurrentRequest Nothing ucr (Just $ REContact ct)
             createBusinessChat = do
-              let Profile {preferences = userPreferences} = profileToSendOnAccept user Nothing True
+              let Profile {preferences = userPreferences} = userProfileToSend' user Nothing Nothing True
                   groupPreferences = maybe defaultBusinessGroupPrefs businessGroupPrefs userPreferences
               (gInfo@GroupInfo {groupId}, clientMember) <-
                 createBusinessRequestGroup db vr gVar user cReqChatVRange profile profileId ldn groupPreferences