Instead of having a large cache of `room_id -> bool` about whether a
room is partially stated, replace with a "fetch rooms the user is which
are partially-stated". This is a lot faster as the set of partially
stated rooms at any point across the whole server is small, and so such
a query is fast.
The main issue with the bulk cache lookup is the CPU time looking all
the rooms up in the cache.
Erik Johnston
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